Updated: Jun 23, 2020
It's so easy to forget why we sometimes fall into the pits of hell, assuming that everything around us is going well in the present, except for us.
"Something is inherently wrong with me", we tell ourselves repeatedly , thus failing to remember and re-member that the present moment was preceded by many other present moments when things did not go well, to say the least.
Re-membering who we are at present, takes the integrity and courage to choose to delve into emotional amnesia or into redundant remembering of what was, just to make room for the pain, such that it can be witnessed with kindness, empathy and compassion, for the wound to heal through making space and holding it with love, fully present, in the present.
I write for the sake of reminding myself that my presence in this world is a gift, that my matter-reality in this world matters, that I matter. I am made of matter.
The space my matter takes up in this physical world asks to be acknowledged, first and foremost by myself.
Once I acknowledge my matter's reality,
I can take responsibility for my actions in this world,
I am able to respond to anything that comes my way with empathy, compassion, integrity and assertiveness.
At the end of the day, I can say wholeheartedly: "I MATTER AND SO DO YOU."
—An excerpt from Making OurSelves Matter: An Introduction to Choice Therapy by Liza Futerman